9 Steps on Learning How to Love Yourself Again

Self-Love. What does it mean?

There is much hype about self-love, self-acceptance, and self-compassion these days.

These terms mean nothing if it’s not applied at times of need. Understanding what you’re going through is the first step to fixing it.

In this post, I hope to shed light on what loving yourself truly means by addressing nine practical steps.


1. Practice Self-Care

We neglect ourselves because we develop an unhealthy relationship with ourselves.

We choose to be negative, associating it with our guardians or caretakers. For example, if our parents had abused or neglected us as a child, we internalize the message of being worthless and unloved. This leads to a lifelong belief in self-hatred, which manifests as self-neglect. Your mental health will be tremendously affected. Accept that it’s not too late to love ourselves. Use your life experiences to understand yourself.

Tell yourself you deserve better.

2. Tweak Your Daily Habits

Never underestimate the power of your habits.

You may think that changing long-standing routines and bad habits are challenging, but you are so very wrong! A few simple tweaks to your daily habit is all you need. I am not introducing some crazy new fitness program or eating regimen (although those things can be helpful).

Consider adding these daily habits to your routine:

  1. Eat slowly and be mindful of it
  2. Keep a journal
  3. Drink plenty of water
  4. Get enough exercise
  5. Hear positive affirmations daily
  6. Be more social

3. Get Rid of Limiting Beliefs. Embrace The Abundance Mindset.

“We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts,” said Buddha.

If you want to achieve something in life, choose to believe in yourself! Change your negative thoughts by challenging limiting beliefs that hold you back. My favourite technique is through visualization or having the abundance mindset. First, visualize yourself achieving each of your goals – Your goals may be things like losing weight, getting a new job or getting a new car. Feel yourself achieving that goal and living your life. Practice this the first thing in the morning.

Observe your thoughts and the changes it does to your body.

4. A Gratitude Journal Helps

A gratitude journal helps you focus on what you have and not what you don’t have.

Follow these steps to start writing your own.

  1. Start by writing at least five things you are grateful for in your everyday life. It can be as simple as being thankful that you’re breathing today or thanking the universe for the beautiful life you have. Don’t overthink; start!
  2. For the next week, add something new to your list every day. Your list can be anything from a minor task to a big goal. It should be challenging but doable.
  3. Continue adding something new every day until your list turns into habits and the habits stick with you forever!

5. Smile, It’s Free and Easy!

Smile more.

It’s good for you and the people around you. Smiling is contagious. Smiling at a stranger put both of you in a better mood. Smiling has also been proven to reduce stress and improve overall health, so it’s good for your body too! What if your day did not start right? Take a moment to smile, and improve your mood instantly!

Smiles are free and easy, so there’s no reason not to smile from time to time!

6. Be Selfless

Do something for someone else today.

It doesn’t have to be a big thing. For example, pick up the litter on the road, smile at a lonely-looking person and strike up a conversation.

Random acts of kindness make you feel good about yourself and the world — and that’s amazing!

7. Give Your Inner Child Permission to Come to Life Again

Growing up is overrated.

It’s hard out there for a grownup. The bills pile up, the responsibilities mount, and the entire ordeal can be a significant drag. Cool it off by letting your inner child come out.

You might find that all those little things that used to delight you aren’t so little after all.

8. Don’t be Consumed by the Media

The media makes us think that everyone else is better off than we are.

It is not true, and if we keep believing such lies, we can never move on with our lives. It is not healthy to obsess over the media for many reasons, but mainly because it keeps us disconnected from our true selves.

We must remember that we are more than we assume.

9. I Am Responsible for My Actions

You prefer to be in your current relationship; you chose the day you left; you are accepting to stay with your partner, and you are preferring to be in an unconventional marriage.

You have the power to change your life. From today, honour your true nature, feelings, and intuition. Be honest about what you need. It helps to be true to yourself, no matter how difficult it might be.

Choose to be a powerful person.

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Final Thoughts. Open Your Heart

Stop your inner turmoil naturally by learning to love yourself.

It is easier to practice this when the conditions are favourable. But try not to force things; Let life happen as it should. If you’re going to fall in love with yourself again, you’ve got to stay true to your values and listen to your deepest self.

That doesn’t mean shedding a bunch of emotional baggage from the past; it means accessing what’s inside you that makes you feel whole and connected.

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