5 Actions to Take The Next Time You Ask Yourself “Am I Good Enough?”

Have you ever wondered if you’re good enough? The answer is; Yes! You are definitely good enough! Believing is a powerful tool! An experiment done at Columbia University has proven what we already knew: when you tell yourself you can achieve something, your mind will make it possible. So how does this work? Our conscious and subconscious minds work together to achieve things in life. The conscious mind — that’s the self-critical one that’s always negative and the subconscious mind; the self-talker, that’s always positive; battle it out every day. The key here is balance. Make sure not to give more power to your critical self.

We need to understand why we ask ourselves this question and how it influences our lives. We must change the way we view perfectionism. Those who struggle with perfectionism set specific standards that are unreachable. They feel inadequate. We should realize that perfectionism is a fear of failure and not a reflection of our true selves.

1. Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs

A person who is negative often has limiting beliefs that hold them back from being successful.

You’re busy all day thinking about your problems, again and again, pushing yourself for days without breaks. Fear of not being good enough has stopped you from taking action in important areas of your life. It’s time to learn why we assume we are not good enough.

Action: Beliefs are like muscles—they can be trained, strengthened and improved. To break through a limiting belief, you have to know what you’re trying to change. Find the thought and practice challenging it. It’ll get easier with practice. We might realize we already have what it takes to live the life we want.

2. Question Your Expectations

We live in a society where we’re constantly trying to raise our standards of living. We put ourselves through insane expectations and measures. The more we set these high expectations, the more we doubt ourselves. When expectations become a burden, people feel overwhelmed and inadequate. The stress of consistently trying to please others can increase anxiety and depression. When we’re focused on what others want, we beat ourselves up.

Action:

Stop doubting and start observing your thoughts. This can lead to some pretty profound realizations. Maybe you create a false need to blend into your social circle. Remember, you are strong and smart. You are a beautiful person, worthy and loved. No one can ever take that away from you. Life is short and unpredictable. Don’t worry too much about pleasing people who don’t know you. Do things for your own benefit. Be happy and enjoy this fantastic adventure!

3. Face Your Fears

The fear of failure keeps people from doing what they want to do. It is a constant reminder that we aren’t good enough and constantly push ourselves to be better at our expense. We don’t address this feeling because there’s a sense of powerlessness that comes with it. And so we keep denying our fears until it comes crashing down on us.

Action:

It’s time to face your fears. The deep-rooted fears. The fears that hold you back. Ultimately, facing your fears is about practising courage and learning to be happy with who you are. Unfortunately, there’s no magic formula for it—but it always pays off in the end.

4. Create a Personalized Plan

Ending self-doubt starts with changing your mindset and being more aware of the negative thoughts that creep in. You can do this by learning how to be positive in a negative situation, setting goals and working towards them, and creating a personalized plan to be conscious of your thoughts.

Action:

There are three steps to creating this plan:

1. Identify your strengths and weaknesses.

2. Assess what resources you need to accomplish your goals (e.g., time, money or training).

3. Create a timeline for meeting those goals and start asking people for help if needed.

5. Look Around You. Who Do You Surround Yourself With?

Think of your mind as a garden. The plants in your garden are the thoughts you water. Watering the plants of negativity and doubt is toxic to your wellbeing. Water the plants with positivity and good thoughts. They will grow and blossom. It’s important to realize that your thoughts don’t happen in a vacuum. Those around you play a role in creating them.

Action: 

Surround yourself with people who appreciate, understand, and love you as a person. Cut off contact with those who don’t support you or offer a negative contribution to your life. It can be difficult, especially cutting off ties. If it’s too drastic, then learn how to manage them. Start with minimising contact with negative energy vampires.

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Without immediate regard and respect for your self-worth, you cannot experience joy and contentment. It will be difficult to calm your chattering mind. If you feel the need to change, please take action. If you do not know what is missing, coaching may be the right option. Meeting with a good coach helps achieve your goals because self-discovery and personal growth are necessary to realise your full potential. Stay on track. Remember your purpose. Let no one hold you back, and always have a positive attitude.

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